Get-To-Know-You Questions

Good conversation takes effort and planning. Friendships do too. So, in many failures and a few successes, I found that asking people thought-provoking questions really helps. It doesn’t matter if they answer wrong, encourage them to just open themselves to you so you can just see the basic thought-process they go through to get there. Tell them: Interpret widely, answer specifically.

I always change my mind about these questions. And I try not to plan my answers, so I can be in the same boat of figuring my thoughts out as the person I’m asking is.

In varying levels of intensity…

• What is your greatest fear?
• How do you overcome it?
• What is your greatest hope?
• What trait do you admire/value in other people?
• What do you notice first about a person you are getting to know?
• If you had a social resume, and were forced to brag about yourself, what would you say is your greatest personality/character trait? Or, what would you aspire to have it one day be?
• Where did you come from? (A sort of what-made-you-who-you-are-question). A couple big moments or a small quiet process?
• Who is someone who most affected your life or who you are?
• What is your perfect day? Ever.
• What is your life goal?
• What do you think about in your "”quiet”/”greatest” moments? Is there a general theme at least?
• What is your favorite form of art?
• What is something you’ve always wanted to do?
• What would you spend $1 million on? No saving or investing.
• What super power would you want?
• Are you a beach, country, or city person? Or other?
• If you knew you could try anything and not fail, what would you do?
• Favorite childhood memory?
• Life motto?
• What kind of people do you like? Describe your best friend in as much detail as you can.
• In 5 years, what kind of person will you be?
• What’s your major? Why did you choose it? What do you want to do with it?
• What is your language of love?
• words of affirmation
• quality time
• receiving gifts
• acts of service
• physical touch
• If you could have a wish granted, what would it be?
• What’s your favorite season? Why?
• If you could give the world one piece of advice, what would it be?
• What’s your idea of romance? Is it a feeling or an action?
• Have you been in love?
• Do you daydream a lot? About what?
• Favorite books, movies, songs, artists, etc.
• Six flags or camping?
• A week on a dream vacation with your 3 best friends or 10 minutes on the moon by yourself?
• You have 24 hours to live… What do you do? Famous last words?
• You have a month to live… What do you do?
• What makes you angry?
• What makes you happy?
• What makes you sad?
• What is your favorite/most beautiful doctrine?
• Are you a curious person? Do you ever have questions that leave you pondering for long periods of time? Do you have an example?
• Is there a driving question in your life?
• What is happiness to you? What brings it, but also what is it?
• If you were trapped on an island what one thing would you bring? (Not a tool to get you off.)
• If your house were burning down, what one item would you save?
• What is something you’ve always wanted to do?